Chapter 4 The Self

 The 'self' here means - “… the discussion and context of the individual”

  The 'self' can also be deemed as the way in which communication and interpretation of messages takes place within the individual.


  The area of ‘self’ can be explored and widen into


  Self concept


   It is how you feel and think about yourself- perception and actions, your feeling and though. Your strength and weakness, your abilities and limitations your pros and conts etc.

   It is the image who you are.


   Area that affect self concept

   Social Comparison

• we often compare and adjust our image and thinking with the way society acts and thinks

   E.g - if society think it is cool to wear underwear on the head, chances are we might follow it! Fashion trends, popular culture, etc. 

   Other's image of you

• we often compare ourselves to those around us: friends, peers, etc

   E.g - how well did you do in your exam compared to your friends?
   Performing - music, art, sports = we often ask “How was it?” or “Did I do well?” to people close to us to seek a comparison

    Self interpretations & evaluations

• your self-interpretation and self-evaluation are your standards that applies to your ethical and moral reasoning, beliefs and comprehension and conformity of things around you

    E.g - Some may think lying is okay, but some may think lying is wrong. As a result, your ‘good’ and ‘bad’ list will be based on these things. 

    Cultural Teachings

• your culture instills in you a variety of beliefs, values, and attitudes about such things as success

     E.g - your ability to achieve what your culture defines as success, contributes to a positive self-concept




    Self awareness

• ability to discover things about yourself
• process of discovering your personal development and understanding
• become self aware about your own ability

    The Four Selfs - Johari Window

     The Four Selfs - Johari Window by

• Joseph Luft
• Harry Ingham

      Four different window explain different parts of ourselves that we know ourselves, other know betteh than we do, some remain hidden from others and some totally UNKNOWN to you or anyone.


      Open Arena

• known to self and others

      Facade

• known to self but unknown to others

      Blind Spot

• unknown to you but known to others

      Unknown (unknown self)

• unknown to you and others

      Self Esteem

• means confidence or the level or trust or assurance to yourself
• always good to have it, but dont over ly high self esteem that become self destructive.

     How to increase your self esteem

• attack self destructive belief
• seek out nourishing people
• work on project that will result in success
• remind yourself of your success
• secure affirmation

     Self Disclosure

• an act of telling others about things that would not about you
• telling your hidden self

     Self Disclosure's advantage

• Gain confidence
• Be more truthful about yourself
• make or strengthen friendships and relationships

     Self Disclosure's disadvantage

• Lost of friends and trust
• Additional pressure and burden
• Living with regret